Well past halfway

May 17th, 2008 | By | Category: Personal Columns

Mr Britten was headmaster of our two teacher primary school for the last term I was there. He was very different from his predecessor, he drove a bright orange ‘K’ registered car, the most up to date registration possible in the spring of 1972. He played the piano with one finger and much humour and he was very fond of reading. At the end of the day he would read to the whole class, the book still remains clear in the memory, Bran of the Moor. He wore his hair closely cropped and was probably not so many years older than those he taught.

Snatches of conversations still remain in the memory. He once asked, maybe in the context of some English comprehension exercise, what was meant when it said that someone was middle aged.

“They are in their thirties”, I answered.

It seemed a reasonable answer. In 1972, people died in their sixties and thirty was halfway to sixty, so it was the middle.

Mr Britten smiled. “I hope not”, he said.

Years later a philosophy lecturer looked at our class of young students. “Your outlook on life changes once you pass forty”, he said, “then you realize that you really are going to die.”

So middle age was reached at forty, not thirty, I was ten years out.

A friend from long ago emailed this morning. The brother of her close friend had died at the age of 46, while her best friend at work, of a similar age to herself, had been told there was nothing more that could be done about her pancreatic cancer. It had been a sad week, she said, but her friend wanted her to carry on behaving as normal, whatever “normal” meant.

My friend was a great fan of Kate Bush and I searched YouTube for “Wuthering Heights”, only to realize that it was a song from thirty years ago, the number that had made Mr Britten smile.

There are moments when those blissful, hopeful days with Mr Britten seem infinitely attractive. Days when the world seemed young and life seemed to stretch out forever, days when even being thirty was such a remote prospect that it could be discounted from your mind.

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  1. I’m on the slippery slope so!

    I don’t really want to go on until I reach 122 🙄

  2. Ian

    You have reminded me of another person I had forgotten, so many years pass and we also forget. If you had asked me of a feature I remembered from Mr Britten it would have been his close cropped hair. What was the car? I can remember it being strange having a Male teacher only having known Miss Rabbage and Miss Everitt, although I have a vague recollection of a Mr Shields who came once a week to teach art I think???!!!! Any memories of him Ian As I am going through middle age now that is why I live life to the full!!!!!!

  3. Hm! I stopped getting old when I got there

  4. So true. I thought 30 was a milestone . . then 40 . . now I’m 50 it’s so UNFAIR! I never minded telling people my age until I turned 50 then all of a sudden it seemed old and embarassing and for some unexplained reason, i started to ‘look’ my age for the first time in my life. Ho hum! Then I look at my life and the fact that my husband died at age 35 . . .each day after that is a bonus!

  5. Les, I remember Mr Shield with great fondness. A gentle man with greying hair. I loved Fridays.

  6. I don’t think I could have coped with being widowed at 35 (or any other age for that matter – I’m going first)

    I think Mr Britten’s car was a Hillman Avenger. I only remember because someone in the class was looking for ‘K’ registrations – new cars were rare in 1972, and Mr Britten said, “What about mine?”

    Mr Shield had been a member of an RAF bomber crew in the war. Maybe he wasn’t as old as I remember him, in fact, he might only have been in his fifties.

  7. Ian do you know I think you’re right Mr Britten did have a Hillman Avenger,
    Paula Mr Shield still attended once a week when you were at school!! He must have been around for a few years.He probably was only in his fifties It was us as kids thinking the teachers were ancient because they were past ‘middle age’

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